I came from UP and not from Ateneo and I am a father as well but my son is not an ATENISTA but from Lourdes School of Mandaluyong. I write because what had happened to AMIEL was something that made me realized a lot of things not just about the incident but about FATHERHOOD.
The story focuses on AMIEL’s FATHER as well as a FATHER & SON school activity has been nearing. We as fathers may not at all be so showy and emotional to our sons because of being pre-occupied with our roles as providers and heads of our families but then this has made me re-think that our focus no matter what should always be with our kids – with our family.
Each day counts. I often would kiss my son and tell him how I love him being the only child. I could just imagine how painful it is for AMIEL’s FATHER to have bid farewell to his son after breakfast as a normal daily routine without expecting that moment was their last. I cried while driving home.
I must have heard the news late but I cannot stop thinking about it. Imagine a school so expensive where you expect that traffic enforcers are regulating the flow of vehicles because kids from known and from ordinary families are around the place which they have to protect, but then there is none.
I have not heard in any of the news article about the school having its own ambulance or experienced in-house medics attending to the need of the child. It was the lady whom we all do not know who volunteered to help the child and the driver to take them to the hospital.
Worse is that as mentioned, no one even wanted to open their doors for the driver who was walking and carrying the bloodied child for help. It is sad. Imagine how people can be heroes in the split of a second and how some chooses to be numb and careless. Why? Is it because they do not want to stain their nice car’s interiors? Too bad.
I do not intend to blame or raise issues here. The point here is that all we all as parents are responsible for our kids. More so, as drivers, we too are responsible to ensure that we maintain safety and caution. Now, we can never revert things. We need to move forward and learn from this. AMIEL’s life has a good purpose indeed and that is to awaken us all about safety, care, time and love for our kids.
As I reached home, I asked for my son. He was again playing hide and seek with me as usual. I searched for all the possible hiding places until I found him. I never asked him about his school works or about what the day’s news were on BANDILA as he is fond of watching news. No words were said at all… I just hugged my son so tight and kissed him so many times as tears fall.
I love my son and I would not want such a thing to happen to him even when he is already old and on his own. From Day 1 until now that he has grown up as a 9-year old boy, I still carry him whenever we do malling and he would say “Dad, pakarga!” while massaging my back as a consolation. I love my son and I know you all are the same with yours.
Thus, as I write this, I am writing to the officials of Lourdes School of Mandaluyong as well to improve pedestrian safety and proper parking regulations and perhaps put PEDESTRIAN LANES and MARKINGS along SHAW BLVD. and in front of CITYLAND SHAW TOWER to ensure safety. Police Officers should also be stationed near schools and that educational institutions are to be required to have their own ambulances and people experienced in providing medical attention. It’s time for all of us to improve things and move on.
Thank you AMIEL for waking us up. You will forever be remembered in our hearts as a son and as the pupil who touched our hearts to value life and family more.
RYAN ERICSON CANLAS
SAP Practice Manager – SAP COE
International SAP BASIS Consultant